We repeatedly tell patients we are not

We repeatedly tell patients we are not in a hurry; there are no trains to catch and we don’t care when the baby comes, only how!  A doctor who is in a hurry does not belong in the field of obstetrics.  As my chief pointed out, "An obstetrician should have a big rear end and the good sense to sit calmly thereupon and let nature take its course."  ~Robert A. Bradley

The stricken mother sitting by the side

The stricken mother, sitting by the side of the lifeless form of her first-born, will hear unmoved the words of consolation and the persuasions to resignation which are urged by one who has not suffered, even though he eloquently draw motives from the highest heaven; while the silent pressure of her hand by some humble creature who has hidden her treasure under the daisies, will inspire her with calmness and strength. ~Timothy Titcomb (J.G. Holland), Gold-foil

Life is always a rich and steady

On very cold nights he lay so that his breath would warm it. For Wilbur, nothing in life was so important as this small round object – nothing else mattered. Patiently he awaited the end of winter and the coming of the little spiders. Life is always a rich and steady time when you are waiting for something to happen or to hatch. The winter ended at last.  ~E.B. White, Charlotte’s Web, Chapter XXII: A Warm WindTPV

My mothers feeling is we were made

[My mother’s] feeling is, we were made to do this work, and it’s not easy, and it’s inherently painful…. Pain and pleasure are a continuum, and without the pain, there would not be the pleasure.  We wouldn’t have a place to slide around, and that this is just an intense experience of pain.  It’s also an intense experience of pleasure, and joy and hope…. I would say that the pain is part of the glory, or the tremendous mystery of life.  And that if anything, it’s kind of a privilege to stand so close to an incredible miracle.  And that there’s pain involved because it’s such a tremendous event, that it’s like,… it’s like living in a different dimension briefly.  And that it’s a painful process, because it’s like two worlds colliding.  ~Simone Taylor, quoted in Blessed Events by Pamela Edith Klassen

Giving birth is a transformation and it

Giving birth is a transformation and it doesn’t matter whether you’ve had eight babies before.  It’s still a transformation the next time you have another baby, because you are no longer the same woman you were before you had that baby.  ~Penny Handford, quoted in Mothering the New Mother by Sally Placksin

The instant of birth is exquisite pain

The instant of birth is exquisite.
Pain and joy are one at this moment.
Ever after, the dim recollection is
so sweet that we speak to our children
with a gratitude they never understand.
We speak to our parents with a sorrow
unfamiliar until the day they are dying.
~Madeline Tiger, Birds of Sorrow and JoyTPV

Many western doctors hold the belief that

Many Western doctors hold the belief that we can improve everything, even natural childbirth in a healthy woman.  This philosophy is the philosophy of people who think it deplorable that they were not consulted at the creation of Eve, because they would have done a better job.  ~Gerrit-Jan Kloosterman

In achieving the depersonalization of childbirth and

In achieving the depersonalization of childbirth and at the same time solving the problem of pain, our society may have lost more than it has gained.  We are left with the physical husk; the transcending significance has been drained away.  In doing so, we have reached the goal which perhaps is implicit in all highly developed technological cultures, mechanized control of the human body and the complete obliteration of all disturbing sensation.  ~Sheila Kitzinger, Women as MothersTPV

To be pregnant is to vitally alive

To be pregnant is to be vitally alive, thoroughly woman, and distressingly inhabited.  Soul and spirit are stretched – along with body – making pregnancy a time of transition, growth, and profound beginnings.  ~Anne Christian Buchanan and Debra K. Kingsporn, The Quickening Heart: A Journal for Expectant Mothers

I begin to love this little creature

I begin to love this little creature, and to anticipate his birth as a fresh twist to a knot which I do not wish to untie. Men are spoilt by frankness, I believe, yet I must tell you that I love you better than I supposed I did, when I promised to love you forever…. I feel it thrilling through my frame, giving and promising pleasure.  ~Mary Wollstonecraft, letter to husband William GodwinTPV reprinted version

Those who have lost an infant are

Those who have lost an infant are never, as it were, without an infant child.  Their other children grow into manhood and womanhood, and suffer all the changes of mortality; but this one alone is rendered an immortal child; for death has arrested it with its kindly harshness, and blessed it into an eternal image of youth and innocence.  ~Author Unknown

Vita mutari the literal translation from

VITA MUTARI – the literal translation from Latin to English is "Life Transformation."  That is the closest thing I could think of the feeling of labor/birth… what you are feeling isn’t pain, it’s life transformation.  Is it dramatic?  You bet!  I think it should be!  ~Stephanie Soderblomnurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=16

Remember this for it is as true

Remember this, for it is as true as true gets:  Your body is not a lemon.  You are not a machine.  The Creator is not a careless mechanic.  Human female bodies have the same potential to give birth well as aardvarks, lions, rhinoceri, elephants, moose, and water buffalo.  Even if it has not been your habit throughout your life so far, I recommend that you learn to think positively about your body.  ~Ina May Gaskin

The experience of birth is vast it

The experience of birth is vast.  It is a diverse tapestry woven by cultural customs, shaped in personal choices, affected by biological factors, marked by political circumstances.  Yet the nature of birth itself prevails in elegant design of simple complexity.  ~Harriette Hartigan

Pregnant women they had that weird frisson

Pregnant women!  They had that weird frisson, an aura of magic that combined awkwardly with an earthy sense of duty.  Mundane, because they were nothing unique on the suburban streets; ethereal because their attention was ever somewhere else.  Whatever you said was trivial.  And they had that preciousness which they imposed wherever they went, compelling attention, constantly reminding you that they carried the future inside, its contours already drawn, but veiled, private, an inner secret.  ~Ruth Morgan